After the affair healing the pain and rebuilding trust when a partner has been unfaithful 2nd edition paperback september 4 2012 by janis a spring author 44 out of 5 stars 674 ratings see all formats and editions. Her first book after the affair healing the pain and rebuilding trust when a partner has been unfaithful has sold over 250000 copies and is published in 12 countries how can i forgive you is a finalist for the books for a better life award. Monogamy has been violated the unfaithful partner is the one who had the affair it was difficult choosing labels for these people certainly the unfaithful partner may feel equally hurt at times in general how ever its the one whose partner strays who experiences the greater sense of devastation. For the 70 percent of couples who have been affected by extramarital affairs this is the only book to offer proven strategies for surviving the crisis and rebuilding the relationship written by a nationally known therapist considered an expert on infidelity there is nothing quite like the pain and shock caused when a partner has been unfaithful. After the affair healing the pain and rebuilding trust when a partner has been unfaithful item preview remove circle after the affair healing the pain and rebuilding trust when a partner has been unfaithful by spring janis abrahms spring michael publication date 1997